#456 A unique path to overcoming limiting beliefs, breaking free from self doubt, and unlocking fulfilment, with Blake Lefkoe.

Are you ready to break free from the mental and emotional blocks holding you back from living your best life?

In this episode, we dive deep into the transformative Lefkoe Method with holistic health coach Blake Lefkoe. Discover how addressing limiting beliefs can lead to profound personal growth and unlock new possibilities in your life.

• Understand the root causes of your limiting beliefs and how they shape your reality.
• Learn practical steps to eliminate these beliefs and experience immediate energetic shifts.
• Hear inspiring success stories of individuals who transformed their lives by overcoming mental barriers.

Tune in to this enlightening episode now and start your journey towards a life free from limitations!

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02:25 - Breaking Free From Limiting Beliefs 

07:43 - Overcoming Limiting Beliefs Through Transformation

12:21 - Unpacking and Releasing Limiting Beliefs 

18:50 - Energetic Shift and Transformative Healing

26:40 - Understanding Past Events and Self-Perception 

32:22 - The Power of Perception

35:42 - Unlocking Limiting Beliefs for Success

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"Everything I've done up to now has gotten me to where I am, and if I changed anything I wouldn't be here, and I love where I'm at."

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https://www.blakelefkoe.com/

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Transcript

Agi Keramidas: 0:35

In this episode, 456 you will discover how your reality is shaped by your limiting beliefs and how to change that. Welcome to personal development mastery, the podcast that equips you with the simple and consistent actions that will help you create a life of purpose and fulfillment. I'm your host, Agi Keramidas. By the end of this episode, you are going to learn the root causes of your limiting beliefs and how they shape your reality, and you will discover practical steps to eliminate these beliefs and experience immediate, energetic shifts before we dive in. Remember mastery seekers. If you want to go deeper into the episodes, join us at mastery seekers tribe, the free community for more you. Today, it is my real pleasure to speak with Blake Lefkoe. Blake, you are a holistic health coach and a certified facilitator of the lefco method, a transformative process developed by your late father that focuses on eliminating the mental and emotional blocks that prevent people from achieving their full potential. You are passionate about helping others free themselves from the limitations that keep them stuck and guiding them to live healthier, happier lives, more aligned with their passions and their values. Blake, welcome to the show. It's such a pleasure to speak with you

Blake Lefkoe: 2:27

today. Thank you so much for having me. It's a pleasure to be here.

Agi Keramidas: 2:31

I'm looking forward to this conversation, and I know, and I will say that as a little prefers to the conversation, that because you are in Hawaii and I am in the UK, the time difference, it is from my experience having done this for many, many years, it is the most difficult time zone. So I'm glad that you accommodated the difference. It's very, very early in the morning from you. From

Blake Lefkoe: 3:04

Okay, I'm gonna get to watch sunrise here in a little

Agi Keramidas: 3:06

bit like I am looking forward to discussing with you and exploring limiting beliefs, and actually, even more than that, breaking free from the limiting beliefs that keep us stuck in negative patterns. And I think everyone listening now can relate to some way with what negative patterns are in their life. Before we go there, I would like to hear a little bit about your background. From what I understand, what I find interesting is that your father created this method, and then you got rebellious against it, and you you, you know, turn your back on it, and then you return, obviously. So he coming back and speaking about it. So I would like to hear about the that rebellious face. And possibly what I would like to hear is that turning point, what happened that, you know, brought you back,

Blake Lefkoe: 4:11

sure. So it grew up in a house with two parents that were very into personal development, personal growth, helping people. And that was what they did. That's what they talked about at the dinner table. That was just, you know, what I heard about constantly. And so I did what a lot of people do, and I just rebelled. And I said, I just want to have fun. I don't want to look at my stuff. And I traveled and I partied and I went skydiving and I surfed, and I just got into all these really fun things. And I eventually moved to Hawaii and traveled from here. And then one day I woke up and I was in my late 30s. I was a single mom in an just kind of unhealthy, unstable relationship. I was bartending. I was drinking far too much and using other substances, and I just kind of realized that my life was unfulfilling. It was unsustainable. Unsustainable. I wasn't treating myself Well, I wasn't attracting healthy people, and I wasn't being the kind of mom that my son deserved. And so I found my way back. Back to this method completely organically. And I was so fortunate that I had this tool accessible to me. And I started working on myself. And I also sat with some plant medicine, which is pretty powerful as well. And I got sober. And over the course of the last three years, I got out of three decades in the restaurant industry, got trained in this, started my own business. Have completely changed all relationships, how I show up in the world, how the world shows up for me, the people that I attract, the community that I'm a part of, the man that's in my life, the kind of Mother I am, and it's just been such a 180 profound journey, and I am so grateful every day that I've been able to get where I am and continue to grow and and live a life that is so authentic to me and what feels right to me and not what I think I should be living or I think I should be doing, And I think

Agi Keramidas: 6:54

that's a that's a situation that many people find or have found themselves into. And can I there is one thing I wanted to ask you about the your your story, what you just said? You said that one day you woke up and was there something was that literally, one specific day was Did something happen? Or was it, you know,

Blake Lefkoe: 7:20

so I had broken up with a boyfriend who I just it was like a ridiculous relationship. He didn't want a child, and I had a child who was my first priority, and we had tried to make it work for so long, and he was an alcoholic, and my back went out, so I was out of the water, and I was in pain, and I had just kind of been on this little bender. It had been Halloween, and it's been partying this and drinking at work, and, yeah, it was just this moment of just like, oh my gosh, what? So it was kind of all those three things that compounded just being in physical pain, emotional pain, and just being hung over and going, why I get gotta be more.

Agi Keramidas: 8:16

That is the way you describe it, that moment, as you said, there is, you know, that insight that comes or that, you know light bulb, that this is something clicks, and you have a knowing that there wasn't there before. So I think, yeah, okay, relate with that. Blake, can we because I, if I understand correctly, the big transformation and what you were describing about how beautiful things are happening now and how things have changed in your life, to a large extent, as is because you followed the the method that your data, and I assume also that it is because some limiting beliefs, or some beliefs that you have, that you identify them and you broke through them. So I would like to use that and talk about limiting beliefs. And you know what I would like to begin with, and I think it would be interesting to hear your thoughts on it is why someone might ask, but why beliefs? And you know, we know that our beliefs shape the way we see the world, our reality Absolutely So can you give me your thoughts on that, on the the importance of beliefs, so you can get, you know, the the foundation, and then we'll go deeper into the limiting ones. Sure.

Blake Lefkoe: 9:49

So our beliefs shape not just our world, but they shape how we see our world, what shows up for us. And if you believe that relationships don't work, that's what you're gonna see. That's what's gonna show up for you. That's it's like you wear these glasses, right? With these relationships don't work glasses and you don't notice the ones that do, they're not in your stratosphere. And even if they are, you're almost blinded to them. You assume, Oh, they fired or this or that. And so when you're able to eliminate that belief, it's like you just take these glasses off, and now, all of a sudden, you're able to see things different. Yeah. And furthermore, in the bigger piece is there's an energetic shift that happens, and you start attracting different things as well. So for example, I used to have the belief that people don't like me, and I just found examples of it everywhere. And I was looking for examples of it everywhere, and, oh, I didn't get invited to this, or this person didn't this, or this thing happened, or this thing didn't happen, and that was also the energy that I was bringing to things. And as that shifted, and then it was amazing, right? Because when a belief goes away, it's this moment where it clicks and all of a sudden you're like, oh, gosh, but this person's always been there for me, and this person reaches out to me, and I get 10 text messages a day from friends, and I did get invited to this thing. And so, you know, it's just amazing how when we believe, you know, we're not good enough, that's literally all we see, and we just see examples of it everywhere. And when you shift that, your perspective just completely switches. And we don't even realize a lot of the time that these beliefs that we have them, that they're in our way, that they are limiting us.

Agi Keramidas: 11:55

That is, I think, what I would like to ask you next, because we don't, you just said we don't even realize them, because, and that is true, they run in a way, on the background of some kind, and they dictate, or they filter. As you use the analogy of the glasses, I like that very much. You know the tinted glasses, that everything looks in a certain way through that, and then you forget about that there is even a lens you don't even see. The lens you only see absolutely

Blake Lefkoe: 12:31

so

Agi Keramidas: 12:34

is there any and now I will also refer to the method that you teach. Is there a way that helps one actually start becoming aware of those limiting beliefs that there

Blake Lefkoe: 12:50

are there once you start doing this work, you do start to become more aware. And sometimes it depends on the person. It depends on the pattern that they're working on. Some beliefs are easier to find. A lot of the time people spend a lot of time and energy talking themselves out of their beliefs. So trying to think of a good example, you know, sometimes people feel like I'm not worthy, or I'm not lovable, and then they go, Oh, but you know, I know my partner loves me and I, I know my kids love me, and you know, but it's this. It takes energy you're constantly talking yourself into, Oh, I know that I am, and here's why I am, but if you believed you were lovable, you wouldn't have to talk yourself into it. It's like affirmations. If you believe you're good enough, you don't have to say I'm good enough, because you know you are. And so we spend so much energy trying to logically talk ourselves out of our beliefs, and when you get rid of them, you no longer have to expend that energy, because they're just gone. And so some beliefs are very conscious in that we're constantly trying to talk ourselves out of them. And I'll even have people say, oh, you know, I worked on that. I don't believe that anymore. And I'm like, Well, say it out loud. Can

Agi Keramidas: 14:16

you give me an example? Yes, for belief like that,

Blake Lefkoe: 14:21

the most common belief that I work with, I'd say 95% of a first session with somebody we work on, the belief I'm not good enough. Yes, and it's just so prolific. It's just so common. And it's also, it's not just a common belief, but it's at the root of a lot of different patterns, emotional and behavioral, right? If you believe I'm not good enough, you know, how likely are you to start a project? Right? So it's a procrastination thing, it's a self worth thing, it's a negative self talk thing, it's not going after what you want thing, it's just, you know, one of the causes of a lot of patterns. And people say, oh, you know, I used to think that, but, but now I know that I am and you know this and that, and because I do this and but it's all these qualifiers. It's still this, having to talk yourself into it. And so I'll have people just say the belief out loud. And I'm like, How does it feel when you say that? And they're like, Oh, it feels terrible. And a lot of people can feel beliefs in their body, you know. People say, Oh, I feel that in my throat, or My neck feels tight, or feel that in my stomach the sinking feeling. And you're like, Well, if you didn't, you. Believe that it would wouldn't feel anything to say, you know, say, I'm a monkey. Sound monkey like? Does that feel tight in your throat? And they're like, no like, because you don't believe that. So sometimes you have to kind of get people in touch with that underneath all that justification, that that belief is there, and then you're able to to get rid of it. And what's neat is, when you go ahead,

Agi Keramidas: 16:03

I wanted to ask you about this specifically, because you mentioned that 95% which is overwhelming percentage, in the same belief I'm not good enough. And what I wanted to ask is, out of these people, how many are aware that there is this limiting belief? Because I doubt that most people come to you and say, Blake, you know, I have this belief that I'm not. I think most people would actually say, No, I don't have that belief. I really don't have that but it is there, so

Blake Lefkoe: 16:36

I don't know what the percentage is. I know a lot of people are pretty aware of it Agi. They just feel it. And then some people kind of feel it underneath, but they talk themselves out of it. And some people really feel like, oh, you know, I've worked through that therapy or this or that. But on some level, it's still it's still there. If you have to talk yourself out of it, it's still there. And once you really actually eliminate it, you're able to see that shift. And what's cool is, you know, in the beginning of the session, you say the belief out loud, and there's usually a physical and an emotional component. So sometimes people say, Oh, that makes me feel really sad. That feels really uncomfortable. I want to cry, you know, feel it in my throat or whatever. And you go through the whole process, and then at the end, you say, Okay, take a deep breath. Say I'm not good enough. And then they're like, that just sounds so silly. Doesn't resonate at all. Like, what does it still make you feel sad? No, you still feel that tightness in your throat. They're like, No, it's gone. And if it's not fully sometimes, you're like, oh, there's still a little bit. We go back and we clean it up until it gets to the point where it's like, saying I'm a monkey, it just doesn't resonate at all. It just sounds ridiculous, and then you know it's gone and you can move on to the next

Agi Keramidas: 18:02

and how long does it take to eliminate a belief like the way you just described? Now,

Blake Lefkoe: 18:09

it depends on the person the first time through, kind of the longest, but I've had clients that can eliminate a belief in 10 minutes right? And they've done it a few times. You know, everyone's different, but I have had clients that they come in and it's like five beliefs a session, and they just turn patterns around so fast. It's just incredible. So, so you know, the way we do it is, you come in and you say, This is my pattern. This is my emotional behavioral pattern. This is the thing I want to shift. So, anything you know, anxiety, procrastination, people, pleasing, depression, addiction, anything you're not doing that you want to be doing, things you are doing you don't want to be doing. And then you look for the specific beliefs that contribute to that pattern. And as you eliminate those beliefs, that pattern just shifts. There's no integration. There's no I have to remember these trip, these tips or tricks or tools or I have to remember to switch. There's nothing. You just go back into life and your life changes,

Agi Keramidas: 19:19

is that you mentioned earlier on that at some point in energetic shift happens. That's, I think, the term that you use. So I would like to hear more about this particular energetic shift.

Blake Lefkoe: 19:36

Yeah, so actually, I, I had a client recently, and this is the I've never seen anything like this, but she got rid of a belief. And there's this moment where it clicks and you realize that this thing you've been carrying around as the truth Your whole life is not. And I could, like, she like, sat up straighter, and you could see this, like, 5000 pounds of just this, like, icky, I don't know even what to call it. It was just this energy, this dark, heavy energy, just like, rolled off of her, and she sat up straighter, and her whole demeanor shifted. I mean, her face looked different, but it was like her energy, her aura, everything just shifted. And I started to cry. It was like so incredible. Cool. And I was just like, this woman is never gonna feel that way again, like she just shed this old garbage, like this limiting thing that had just been keeping her stuck for so long, and and it was amazing. And I've never seen it like that before. I've heard people talk about it. I've experienced it myself, but to actually see the shift was really incredible. Was really inspiring. And what I mean when I say an energetic shift is you start just attracting different things, your thought patterns change. How you view things changes. And for me personally, I used to be very defensive. I used to write like there's all these little things that that we do, and as you start eliminating these beliefs, they start to affect every part of your life, like I see it in my parenting, and I see it in my relationships, and I see it with work, and I see it with even my passions. Like I'm an avid water woman. I spend so much time in the ocean, doing all these crazy ocean sports, and even how I start pushing there, or how I start feeling comfortable saying that's too big and I don't have anything to prove and I'm going to stay on the beach, which in the past, had been something that was really hard for me. Like I just, I had to go bigger, I had to prove and I was like, this isn't fun. I don't want to be doing this, but it was hard to stop, because I felt like it was part of my identity. It meant something about me. If I didn't go, people would think this, or I would think this, or somehow change was and freeing yourself from these limitations opens up possibilities for you to be more authentic, to act differently, to say no, to not, not people please, to say, actually, this is what I want, and I'm going to follow my heart and my passion and my authenticity. Because this doesn't resonate and it just gives you. It just opens up possibilities. It's like taking off these cages that we live in, and every cage you remove, just you have more expanse to move around in.

Agi Keramidas: 23:02

This is great. Thank you for this. And actually, let me ask something more specific, because this is so intriguing, the way that you describe it, about, you know, the change that can happen. So let's say, let's put a specific exam. Let's say someone listening right now, they are, I they have an awareness and understanding of that limited belief we're saying earlier. I'm not good enough. There is, to a large extent, they are aware that it it's there in the background. So what would the steps be? Or how are there some steps that the lefko method would help with? You know, processing and eliminating that as as an overview, of course, I don't expect you to go into the details, but just so we can get an understanding of of the method as a method, sure,

Blake Lefkoe: 24:04

so it's, it's literally a step by step. You find the belief. And just for another example, really common belief that people are aware of is something's wrong with me. And you'll you'll hear people actually say it out loud, oh, there's just something wrong with me. And and so you you find the source of the belief first. And when we're four or five, six years old, this is when we're forming all our beliefs about the world and ourself and life and relationships and money and right, how things are, how we are. And we don't say, Oh, my parents do this. We say, oh, people do this, right? And everything becomes about us. So dad's busy working all the time. He comes home, he's tired, mom's depressed, whatever, right, whatever example you want. And we don't go, oh, gosh, my parents are terrible with time management, and my mom's dysfunctional, and she's battling this, you know, illness, and my dad's just trying to provide for us. We go, Oh, I must not be good enough because I'm not getting my needs met. There must be something wrong with me. Oh, I'm not important. Nobody ever asks you anything. Oh, what I want doesn't matter. And so we kind of internalize these things, and once you. Form a belief, it does become the truth, and your life becomes consistent with it. That's what shows up for you, right when we you know you look at patterns, and so often, people that grow up in abusive households go into abusive relationships, they the beliefs you form perpetuate the patterns, and it's not a conscious thing. It's nobody's fault. It's just right. It's how it works. So you find the source, and you say, does it make sense that these events, you can come up with some specific ones, would lead a young child to conclude there's something wrong with me? They'll say, yeah, absolutely, makes a lot of sense. And then you kind of imagine going back in time to one of those events, and you're able to see everything. Okay, I can see my dad drinking. I can see the I can see him yelling. I can see my mom crying. I can see the broken glass on the floor. I can see the couch. I can see what I'm wearing. Just really make it real. And you don't have to relive any trauma. You just go back and you realize that in that event, we can see all these things, color, shape, texture, location. You can point them out to me, and you realize that you can't actually see your belief in that event, it doesn't actually exist. And sometimes that really can be enough of a shift by itself. Typically it's not. And you go back to multiple events, okay, you're in school, and you get the answer wrong, and you get an F on your test. Where is I'm stupid. We bring 100 people back in time with us. Are they going to see? Oh, this person is stupid and oh, maybe they don't understand math. Maybe they're not learning in their learning style. Maybe as a child, you were stupid, because, I mean, you'll always be so you you realize that you didn't actually see it in the world, and then you're able to go through and come up with alternative interpretations. So what else could it have meant that you did poorly in school? Oh, yeah. Could could be I wasn't learning in my learning style. Could be I had crappy teachers. It could be I was so interested in these other things that I was focusing on the things I was interested in and didn't have the attention span to learn math because it wasn't interesting to me. Maybe you know. So you just come up with all these different interpretations, other than, for example, I'm stupid, and you realize that what you said, this belief you formed, is one possible interpretation of these events. It's not the truth. And then you imagine going back in time and giving those events a different meaning. So imagine that you know you had a little spirit animal, guardian angel, whatever you're into some some being on your shoulder. And as you are growing up, every time you get an F, you know, this thing says, oh, you know, you're in a really crappy school system, and they don't know how to teach. They're trying to have you memorize stuff you want to understand, concepts you want the meat of it, you're not into memorizing just for the sake of forgetting. So of course, you're not going to do well. This is this is about the school system. This has nothing to do with you. And you kind of find another interpretation that just really resonates and makes sense to you. And you imagine giving the same event that other meaning. And as you do, the feeling shifts completely shifts. You no longer feel stupid. You know, sometimes when people are looking at stuff with their parents and they're like, Oh, I was so angry, and I felt so powerless. And, you know, I felt there's something wrong with me, whatever it is and and sometimes those alternative interpretations can be that's how my dad was raised. My dad doesn't know how to show me that he loves me, because nobody ever showed him he grew up with abuse. This is the only way he knows how to parent. He doesn't even know how to treat me differently because nobody ever treated him well, and now he's living out of his beliefs, and he doesn't feel like he's good enough, so he's projecting that on me, and all of a sudden it can switch to this compassion, which is a very different feeling. So you realize that the feeling you felt at that time didn't come from the event, it came from the meaning you gave that event. And if you had given that event a different meaning, you would have never felt I'm stupid, or I'm not good enough, or I'm not worthy or not deserving, or there's something wrong with me, and if you hadn't felt that, then you wouldn't feel it today. So you understand that events in and of themselves don't. Mean anything they had consequences. Consequences were scary, painful, hard. Never invalidate how hard someone's childhood was, but that the emotions we feel and the thoughts we have come from the meanings we give those events, not the events themselves, and then there's a few kind of little cleanup pieces, but those are the fundamental basis of the steps of the process. And by the time you realize you never saw it in the world, and then people are kinesthetic, and they will Yeah, but I felt it, so I know it's true. Well, yeah, but we can change the feeling. So we can change the feeling. The feeling doesn't prove the belief is true. And and then there's this moment where you just go, Oh my gosh. And it's, yeah, go ahead.

Agi Keramidas: 31:31

Well, thank you. That's a very it's, it's a great explanation. And you know you, you said, you mentioned the word interpretation, the word meaning. And I think there is there a lot of truth for someone to at least contemplate that you know with it is it's always about the how we interpret events, rather than the events themselves and the meaning. Yeah, and

Blake Lefkoe: 32:01

there's a really neat tool that I teach people that they can just take out into their lives, right? So here's an event, right? The event is, I'm walking down the street and there's a man, that's the event I gave that event the meaning he could hurt me. I now feel scared. That is a real feeling. My thoughts are, how do I get away? I'm scared this man's gonna hurt me. I could also walk down the street and see that same man and say, oh, there's a man here. Nobody's gonna mess with me, because that guy could protect me, and now I feel safe. And I could walk down the street and go, man, that guy's really handsome, some really nice, really nice arms, you know? And now I feel kind of excited. It's the same exact event, three different meanings, three completely different emotions. So it's not the event that causes it, it's the meaning that we give. And we can do we we're meaning making machines. We do it all day long. We go out into the world and somebody cuts us off, or somebody doesn't smile at us, or somebody doesn't invite us to something, or we see someone in the store and they don't say hi, right? See this person in the store, we go, gosh, there must be mad at me. I did something wrong. They don't like me. There's right? And if you can stop and go, What else could it mean that they didn't say hi? Maybe they have a headache. Maybe they're fighting with their boyfriend, maybe their dog died. Maybe they saw me and I was scowling, and they thought I was having a bad day, so they're trying to give me space because they actually like me a lot like we have no idea what it means. And even if that person is mad at us or doesn't like us, it still doesn't mean anything about us. Gonna have 100 people in a room that say, You know what, I really don't like Blake. It doesn't make me any less likable of a person. We could have 100 people in the room that say, Gosh, Blake's great. We really like her. Nothing is changing about who I am. I'm still the same person, regardless of what other people say or think. So even if that person is mad at us, it still doesn't change anything about us. And when you realize that the meaning you're giving this event is just one interpretation, and it could mean anything, that emotion goes away, and that's a tool that that people can actually just start using in their day to day lives. Anytime you have a negative emotion, what meaning Am I giving to this event? And what else could it mean?

Agi Keramidas: 34:40

This is a great, very practical tool. So thank you for those to stop and say. What else could could this mean? Because that's great. It's it's very useful. And, yeah, no, that's brilliant. Blake, where will you direct the listener who has found all this very intriguing and would like to learn more about you and and method?

Blake Lefkoe: 35:11

Yeah, so my website and my email are just my name, so Blake lefkow, B, l, a, k, e, L, E, F, as in Frank, K, o, e.com, and then the email is at Gmail. And if you go to the website at the bottom, there's a link to schedule a free consultation. And you can ask me any questions, share your doubts, share your experience. I'm open to all of it, whatever, whatever you have to say I'm happy to hear. And if you want to know more, if you want to know how it works, or you can share your pattern, and you know, ask specifically how I can help you happy for all of that. And if you want to just shoot me an email and that feels more comfortable, we'll respond to it.

Agi Keramidas: 36:06

That's great, because I think that you know the prospect of eliminating even one limiting let alone you know many, but even one ruling, limited belief. It's a very interesting prospect anyway. So thank you very much for that. Yeah,

Blake Lefkoe: 36:23

there's I just want to give one example, and because you know, different patterns are going to take different and everyone's different, but I've had clients that have come in. I had this one client who came in with procrastination, and she eliminated two beliefs, and she just, like, went out and just opened her own business. And, I mean, she was just like, on fire. And I was like, it was just so amazing to watch. And I had another client who came in and she was a lawyer. Her parents were very strict, like, you're going to be a lawyer, this is your life. A is this that? And she was like, I just, I'm just not happy, like, I'm just not fulfilled, I'm not content. This isn't what I want to do, but this is what I have to do. And we had five sessions, and I think during the second session, we eliminated a belief, like, you can't do what you love and make money. And somewhere in that session, I think it was the that was second or third, and she came back, and she was like, Blake, not only do I see the possibility for doing something different with my life, I know what I want to do with my life. And she started another business that was like so random. And every session, she would come back and she said, I built a website, I did a photo shoot, I got my first client. And it's just so neat to see how the patterns shift, you know, like you're saying, sometime there is that one belief that just unlocks so much, and when you start cleaning up all the other stuff around it, the possibilities that show up, and people are like, oh, you know, I'm not worthy. I'm not good enough. And all of a sudden they hang up from the call, and somebody reaches out to them, to work with them, right? They start getting a client, and stuff like that happens all the time. Within minutes, it's just, and that's that energetic shift, right? You're changing the energy that you're putting out into the world, and you just start attracting things. And it's that's amazing. It's so free. Stick. That's fantastic.

Agi Keramidas: 38:37

Blake, before I wrap up the conversation for today, I do have a couple of quick questions I always ask, and the first one is, what does personal development mean to you?

Blake Lefkoe: 38:56

I think it's consciously developing yourself like, what do you what can your life look like? What can what can it feel like to to be you? And so often, we're just a source. We're just a product of our environments and what we're told and what we see and life has to look a certain way. And stepping back from that and saying, No, it doesn't. I want to feel a certain way. I want my life to be a certain way, and I'm going to do that intentionally. I'm going to develop this live, this persona, this, you know, and doing it with a sense of purpose and intention and what you think, as opposed to what others think.

Agi Keramidas: 39:48

It's great and hypothetical question, if you could go back in time and meet your 18 year old self, what's one piece of advice you would give her?

Blake Lefkoe: 40:00

Nothing. Because everything I've done up to now has gotten me to where I am, and if I changed anything, I wouldn't be here. And I love where I'm at. So I just had to go through everything. I had to go through

Agi Keramidas: 40:20

Blake. I want to thank you very much for this conversation. I enjoyed it very much, and there were some very useful things said, and I will once more repeat that practice of stopping. And assessing whether the meaning you give to the situation or asking the question actually, because that makes it much simpler. What else could this mean? It's a very powerful way to recalibrate things. Yeah,

Blake Lefkoe: 40:50

even for parenting, right when you're when you're physical, means they don't respect me for

Agi Keramidas: 40:56

any event, any event that might happen that is not to our expectation, we can assess the meaning. So it's a great exercise. I want to wish you all the very best with carrying on and seeing and created these transformations for people, and I will leave it to you for your parting words.

Blake Lefkoe: 41:24

I just thank you so much for having me. Was a great conversation, and to anyone listening, you know, just know that life doesn't have to look any certain way. And you really are able to create so much possibility when you get out of your own way. And that's amazing. I mean, I still have someone that I trade sessions with, and I work on myself all the time. You just find little things that come up, weight, stuff, this, stuff, that stuff, parenting, stuff, work, stuff, whatever. And it's just It's freeing, getting getting rid of fear limitations and seeing what's possible is is incredible. So yeah, thank you again. It's an honor to be here.

Agi Keramidas: 42:15

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