#475 How expanding your capacity for sexual pleasure can transform every aspect of your life. (Personal development wisdom snippets)

Have you ever felt like pleasure is something you have to earn rather than something that’s naturally yours?

Snippet of wisdom 67.

In this series, I select my favourite, most insightful moments from previous episodes of the podcast.

In a world filled with expectations and misconceptions about sexuality and pleasure, many of us have been conditioned to suppress our true desires. But what if reclaiming pleasure was the key to unlocking a more authentic, fulfilling life?

1. Discover why pleasure is your birthright and not a luxury.
2. Learn how expanding your capacity for pleasure can transform your nervous system and overall well-being.
3. Break free from societal misconceptions about orgasms and redefine what pleasure means for you.

My guest is the sex coach Dr Fanny Leboulanger.

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Listen to the full conversation with Fanny Leboulanger in episode #370:

https://bit.ly/pdm_370 

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Transcript

Agi Keramidas: 0:00

In this episode, you will discover how expanding your capacity for pleasure, and sexual pleasure in particular, can transform every aspect of your life. Welcome to personal development mastery podcast, and this is another snippet of wisdom, where I select my favorite, most insightful moments from previous episodes. Today's snippet is from my conversation with Fanny Leboulanger, who is a doctor and a sex coach. It is about why pleasure is your birthright, not something you have to earn, and also how expanding our capacity for sexual pleasure can transform our nervous system and overall well being. Let's dive right in.

Fanny Leboulanger: 0:58

The first thing I like to remind every person I'm working with, is that pleasure is our nature. If you consider the clitoris, it has 1000s of nerves, and it has no other function than pleasure. So you know, denying ourselves pleasure is literally denying ourselves our nature. And that being said, so orgasms shouldn't be hard. That shouldn't there. It's not written anywhere, or there is no physical, physiological explanations for orgasm to be so tricky for people, it became tricky, because we live in a crazy situation with internalized sexism, patriarchy and things like that, and people having opinions on what you should do with your sexual life and how, for example, if you consider orgasms, there is this thing about how you know to be, yeah, to be a real woman, you're supposed to come during penetration, whereas the most pleasurable orgasm, or again, orgasm organ isn't really inside the clitoris. Isn't like there is the g spot, of course, but I think the worst misconception is how we rate the types of orgasm, and also how we think orgasms are supposed to look a certain way, because we tend to forget or not know that we have different, different types of pleasure. You can have a luscious pleasure, you can have a soft pleasure, you can have a passionate pleasure. You can have an angry pleasure as well. You can get angergasm, sad chasm when you work with your emotions. So that's a whole palette that is available. And when you combine this with the exploration of your body, this is an endless playground.

Agi Keramidas: 3:16

I'm going to go back to something, the capacity to feel pleasure, and you say that awakening or expanding our capacity to feel pleasure is one of the greatest tools one can have in, you know, creating the life that they want and finding fulfillment. So I would like to hear your thoughts on that I'd

Fanny Leboulanger: 3:38

love to start this answer with, has denying yourself pleasure worked before? Do you feel good when you deny yourself pleasure and when you beat you beat yourself all day long to lose weight? Do this? Do that have more orgasm, but too much and blah, blah, blah, personally, it hasn't. No then what I love about pleasure is how it helps us expand our safety zone in our nervous system, and how, because it's our nature, we slowly reclaim what's ours and how, and how we actually deserve that. If you consider your nervous system, we have some kind of tolerance zone where we feel comfortable and we can manage the coming back at a quote, unquote normal state. That's, for example, why you are not yelling at your spouse when they are just, you know, a little bit late. And this Solomon stone can also be influenced by outside factors, if you we all have been in a huge fight and then notice we were hungry and. And then when we ate, we were like, Oh, I was just hungry. So using pleasure, because it's our nature, help us expand that. And when we expand that, we are also able to notice what is wrong about us, not about us, about us as a society, and able to do something with it to actually step out of the what I call the autopilot life, in this 50 Shades of Gray, not sexy way of how things are supposed, quote, unquote, supposed to be when you reclaim your pressure, you reclaim your essence. And when you reclaim your essence, your tolerance to the bullshit that is not yours decrees, and when you decrease the tolerance to that, you have more fulfillment or simply feeling truly alive is more accessible.

Agi Keramidas: 6:07

Thank you for listening. You will find a full conversation with Dr Fanny Leboulanger in episode 370 The link is in the episode description. If you enjoy this podcast, can you think of one person that would find it useful and share it with them. I appreciate it until next time stand out don't fit in.